Whatever rules you’ve applied to dating in the past, just throw them out the window.
Because when it comes to having a relationship with a man who has kids, you’ll need to follow a whole new set of guidelines.
This could be as infrequent as answering her occasional phone call to regularly making plans for pick-ups or drop-offs and filling her in about anything that happened when her kids were at your place.You don’t have to be bosom buddies, but you should be able to get along and be willing to communicate when it relates to the little ones. “Children shouldn’t be involved in parental dating until you’re really serious and it’s a committed relationship,” says Gilda Carle, Ph. “Children become easily attached, and you don’t want to disappoint or hurt them if things don’t work out.” A single dad who adheres to this really cares about his kids and isn’t just casually bringing women in and out of his children’s lives.Since he’s already got a child (or two or three) that he’s busy with and responsible for, he may not want any more.Helping your daughter understand who she is and what she stands for certainly starts long before the teenage years, but the message needs additional focus during this time when insecurities can creep in.Remind her that she is always enough, and that she doesn’t have to do anything to fit in. Deciding in advance the boundaries she will establish in dating is important.To help you maneuver your way through this scenario, we asked experts and people who’ve been there for tips on the best way to date a dad. “If he doesn't make his kids a priority, that's a major red flag for me,” says single-dad dater Susan Avery, 35, of New York City.