We explore the outcomes and weigh in with the experts to see if opposites do really attract, or repel, in relationships.
From Billy Joel crooning about an uptown girl wanting a downtown man, Pretty Woman, the star-crossed lovers Romeo and Juliet, Beauty and the Beast, the Cinderella fairytale, and many more, we have been told this story of opposite attraction across multiple mediums as varying as Shakespearean literature to Disney movies.
The accepted concept that opposites attract has pervaded popular culture and societal thinking to the point that it is now a commonly held belief.
However, today a growing base of research has explored and deconstructed this legend.
Opposites may attract but how on earth can we get along?
Quite well if we understand the value in personality differences.
Perception of similarity can also be found in romantic relationships and to a greater degree than in friendships.So she starts badgering him, they argue, and soon they are polarized.When we find ourselves arguing like this we may conclude that there is something wrong with the marriage. There will always be tension in those areas where we are opposite.Challenging yourself to exchange new ideas will be the best part of the relationship. This doesn't mean arguments, but if you're discussing different ideas with each other it's likely you'll get pretty good at communicating your point!Taking the time to get to know your differences in a way you both communicate will help your relationship go far and remain strong.Angela Bahns, Professor of Psychology at Wellesley College, unpack their insight from leading research studies in psychology and attraction in today’s world of dating and relationships. Stillwell, co-author of the study , investigated personality similarities, using behavior and language in romantic partners and friends on social media.